Self Sabotage by Matt Hudson: Identifying & Overcoming It

Why do you continue to let your self down and sabotage yourself?

There are lots of sights telling you to think positive and be positive and your world will change.That's all well and good but does it work? Self sabotaging is when your behaviour impacts or prevents you from getting what you want out of life. Procrastination, obesity, due to comfort eating or lack of exercise, over doing the alcohol or addiction are all forms of being your own worst enemy

The truth is that when you self – sabotage you’re doing it unconsciously and won’t realise that you are doing it until afterwards. This is because your amygdala (the primitive brain) has kicked into action and is reacting to a known stimulus, automatically. If you imagine an object hurtling towards your face, your head will move out of the way before you have time to say to yourself, “I should move my head!” This is a beautifully primed part of you, and if you are still alive? Then it works!

How to beat self sabotage

The process can, however, be overridden by staying in the moment and noticing what you can see and hear within this moment, or as Viktor Frankl put it:

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

With this in mind I want you to notice when you are feeling any negative emotion or behaviour. Then realise that this means you are out of rapport with yourself. You now have a moment to rethink and interrupt the flow of your old patterns.

At first you will find that you go unconscious to quickly but if you continue to practice interrupting your thoughts then you will gain control over your mind.

“Watch your thoughts, they become words;

watch your words, they become actions;

watch your actions, they become habits;

watch your habits, they become character;

watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”

FRANK OUTLAW

The effort that you afford this process will allow you to master your destiny and believe me it’ll be worth it!

By Matt Hudson, Author of The Saboteur Within​