When crying isn’t crying

Over my twenty plus years in the field of personal development, I have witnessed lots of salt water coming from the tear ducts of clients. Please note I didn’t say ‘crying’ and that is because as you approach an old wound to heal it thoroughly, the acknowledgement of the experience can cause you to begin spontaneously processing emotional memories. This is what you are paying for.

There are a lot of therapists who get upset when their clients are upset, one might argue that it is good rapport and empathy on the therapists part, but what if the therapist is working through their own troubles during your session? I believe that in order for a therapist to be touched at such an emotional level, he or she must go inside his or her own mind and run their own experiences around the clients’ problem. The therapist is, in effect, leaving the client and processing their version of the experience.

In Body Mind Work we teach our therapists to deal with the process by which the client is accessing their experiences. This allows the therapist to remain fully with the client throughout the session, which leads to an accelerated therapeutic process, because the therapist is always present, even when the client isn’t.

In this video you will hear how my client eventually plucked up enough courage to face his greatest fear. The salt water that ensued was almost instantaneous as he sat back in the chair, to convey his story. You will notice that there is very little content, as the client is, as always, the meaning maker.